Comments on: Who Am I & What Am I Doing Here?

By: Jeniffer Karas

Jeniffer Karas — Mon, 29 Sep 2008 17:56:18 +0000

All 3 of the lessons you present here are invaluable, but #3 especially is true of many people.
It’s hard to try to instigate change, in your private, professional, or relationship life. It may seem easier to just wallow in what you have/do now than take a look at what you can be doing or saying or BEING differently.
Lots of people get stuck there, and it can be particularly difficult to change if those around you seem opposed to the changes you wish to begin. And people do fight change, even positive change, not only in themselves, but also in those around them. As well, overcoming self doubts about your ability to change in the first place can be a challenge for many people.
As for your qualifications for writing this blog, you have many, many more than anyone I know or read. I learn something every time I look at your site.

By: Maria Gajewski

Maria Gajewski — Mon, 29 Sep 2008 15:52:27 +0000

@Evelyn – thank you for the thoughtful comment. It’s true that we all have experiences in our areas of interest, but with so many charlatans operating on the web, I think it’s important that we explain where we get our knowledge and perspectives from.

@Mike – yes, asking the right question is just the first step. Answering it properly is a whole ‘nother ballgame! That’s what I try to do here, but the reader is the ultimate judge of the effectiveness.

By: Evelyn Lim

Evelyn Lim — Sat, 27 Sep 2008 01:38:19 +0000

My belief is that no one is more qualified than the other. You write and share according to your experience. Each reader may “judge” differently what you have to say. Some will probably resonate well or better than others. It will be the group that resonates well who will come to you for their questions.

Thanks for revealing more about yourself! It’s nice to get to know who the blogger is behind a site.

By: Mike

Mike — Fri, 26 Sep 2008 16:13:24 +0000

Well, I have an amazing circle of friends who help me process change in my life, but your 3 key lessons really hit home with me, especially #1.

As an Elder in the Presbyterian church, I repeatedly see very passionate people enter into projects without asking enough questions. They just have a vision for what they want to accomplish and jump in.

Inevitably at some point, usually after some key people burn-out, they finally start to ask some questions.

Let me just add that sub-item a. of that lesson is to make sure you REALLY answer the question! Too often, we settle for the answer that “sounds good”, rather than the one that is honest and complete.