How to Use Travel Nightmares to Increase Your Mental Flexibility

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Airport Departure Board Anyone who has been near an airport in last five years knows that all of the romance of air travel is long gone. Present day flying experiences can be degrading, demoralizing, and downright crazy-making. From security regulations that scrutinize everything from your shampoo to your footwear, to airlines that are so financially screwed that they are charging you for the privilege of eating stale peanuts, leisure and business travel alike have become chores more than adventures.

Getting there (and back) is no longer half the fun.

There is a way to turn this challenge into an opportunity, however. It involves changing the way you approach a trip, doing a little scenario planning, and being prepared for the inevitable bumps in the road (pun intended) when you are traveling. By doing this, you can turn travel difficulties into personal growth opportunities.

I recently had the chance to test my own personal growth and levels of flexibility when my employer sent me on 24 hour trip with 3 days notice. For the real road warriors out there, this would be no big deal, but for me it was a stretch assignment. Because of the short notice, I had few flight options available. In addition, I really wanted to avoid a long drive to a major airport, so I was limited to a couple smaller regional airports that would require connecting flights. I ended up booking flights with short connection times, had 1 flight where I didn’t receive a seat assignment upon purchase (red flag!), had late flights that were probably the last ones in, and the weather forecast called for storms the whole time.

In short, this trip had the potential to be a nightmare.

The good news is, I knew it could be a nightmare, so I was able to plan ahead and prepare appropriately. How did I prepare myself to cope with a possible travel hell? I took the following 3 steps:

1. Do Some Scenario Planning. As I explained in my post How to Do Scenario Planning, scenario planning is a tool for imagining several possible futures, then planning your responses to them. In this situation, I knew that I had a good chance of missing a connection, getting bumped, or having a flight canceled due to weather. Because of my late flights, if that happened it would be nearly impossible to get a flight that same evening to my destination.

2. Figure Out Responses to Each Scenario. I realized that if I missed my flight, I probably would not be able to get to my destination on the evening before my meeting. Fortunately, the meeting didn’t start until 9:30 am and the really critical part wouldn’t begin until 11:00 am, so I had a little time to play with. I came up with three possible responses to this:

  • Sleep in an airport hotel and catch an early morning flight. This would be my first choice. Assuming a flight and a room was available, I would take this option.
  • Sleep in the airport and catch an early morning flight. If a flight was available, but the hotels were all booked, I figured I could get at least a little sleep in the airport before getting a 6:00 am flight.
  • Rent a car and drive through the night. The hub airport I had to fly into is about an 8 hour drive from my destination. If not flights could get me to my meeting before 11:00 am the next morning, I could make the drive and perhaps get a couple hours sleep.

3. Prepare For Each Response. After I decided on my possible responses, I did what I could to make each of them as pleasant as possible:

  • Carried on my luggage. That way I wouldn’t have to deal with lost luggage if I was delayed or put on another plane. Plus, it was only a 24 hour trip, so I didn’t need to carry much anyway.
  • Packed earplugs, a blind fold, snacks, and some entertainment in case I ended up sleeping in the airport.
  • Had contact information for the meeting organizers, my hotel, my office, and anyone else I might have to contact if my plans changed.
  • Carried some cash. I find that cash can make life easier in difficult circumstances, so I carried about $150 - just enough to help out with taxis, food, and tips for helpful people.
  • Most importantly, I mentally prepared to stay calm and stick with my planned responses by visualizing them ahead of time.

Keep It In Perspective

Nearly all travel, even for business, is optional these days. For most of us, most of the time, getting to our desired destination on time is a matter of convenience, not life and death. I knew during my whole trip that if I never made it to my meeting I wouldn’t get fired, my employer wouldn’t go out of business, and life as we know it would not end. Keeping that perspective made the whole experience less stressful.

Given how challenging travel can be, I think it is one of the best ways to stretch your mental muscles and exercise your creativity.

What Was the Result?

Well, after all my careful thinking and preparation, the travel gods decided to smile down upon me. Except for having to jog to make one connection, I had a very smooth trip, got to my meeting, and got home again within 32 hours. Maybe it was my advanced preparation that helped :)

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  1. AvatarSusan Kishner
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    I just stopped by your blog and thought I would say hello. I like your site design. Looking forward to reading more down the road.

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  2. AvatarMatt @ Face Your Fork
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    I’m so going to use this blog post next week when I start packing for my trip; I’m going on vacation and it’s the first time I’d ever will have flown! :P Hopefully I won’t have too bad of a ‘travel nightmare’ (or two!) but I’ll prepare the best I can.

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  3. AvatarMaria Gajewski
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    @Matt - good luck in your travels. Ask a veteran, or look around on the web, for ways to pack to get through security more easily. This is probably the biggest stressor for inexperienced travelers.

    If you’re into minimalism, check out Onebag.com for packing tips.

    Thanks for stopping by. Hope to see you again soon.

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  4. AvatarAaron - Today is that Day
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    Maria,

    This is a great post about what I call “managing expectations”.

    It’s almost like the old adage of “hope for the best, but be prepared for the worst,” but I modify it a bit in order to not put the negative vibrations out there.

    Yes, I still prepare for the worst, but I prepare for it mentally and “make peace” with it so that even if the worst happens, I don’t have a negative reaction to it.

    Great stuff, Maria - thanks for sharing!

    Aaron - Today is that Days last blog post..Open The Success Floodgates by Tapping Into Your Burning Desires and Belief

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  5. AvatarMaria Gajewski
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    @Aaron - “Yes, I still prepare for the worst, but I prepare for it mentally and “make peace” with it so that even if the worst happens, I don’t have a negative reaction to it.”

    This is well said, and exactly the point I was trying to make! By being prepared for things like sleeping in the airport, I made an agreement with myself to not get stressed out about it, which resulted in a lot less anxiety about the trip.

    Thanks for clarifying my own thoughts for me :)

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  7. AvatarSal - Luggage Repair Parts Guide
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    Hi there,

    Just stumbled upon your site and must say that you make some great points regarding travel and the frustrations around it. My wife and I planned a trip to go from San Diego to San Francisco for a wedding and paid a pretty penny since it was a last minute decision. It was supposed to be a 1-hour flight but turned out to be a 6-hour trip due to so many flight delays. It would’ve been much cheaper to drive! Anyways, we made it in time for the wedding reception but that was too much of a close call.

    Thanks for sharing tips!
    Sal

    Sal - Luggage Repair Parts Guides last blog post..Helpful Tips on Luggage Repair Parts

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  8. AvatarKim
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    Thanks for the thoughtful post. I also always prepare for the worst and live with whatever happens.

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1. Susan Kishner - June 10, 2008

I just stopped by your blog and thought I would say hello. I like your site design. Looking forward to reading more down the road.

2. Matt @ Face Your Fork - June 11, 2008

I’m so going to use this blog post next week when I start packing for my trip; I’m going on vacation and it’s the first time I’d ever will have flown! :P Hopefully I won’t have too bad of a ‘travel nightmare’ (or two!) but I’ll prepare the best I can.

3. Maria Gajewski - June 11, 2008

@Matt - good luck in your travels. Ask a veteran, or look around on the web, for ways to pack to get through security more easily. This is probably the biggest stressor for inexperienced travelers.

If you’re into minimalism, check out Onebag.com for packing tips.

Thanks for stopping by. Hope to see you again soon.

4. Aaron - Today is that Day - June 11, 2008

Maria,

This is a great post about what I call “managing expectations”.

It’s almost like the old adage of “hope for the best, but be prepared for the worst,” but I modify it a bit in order to not put the negative vibrations out there.

Yes, I still prepare for the worst, but I prepare for it mentally and “make peace” with it so that even if the worst happens, I don’t have a negative reaction to it.

Great stuff, Maria - thanks for sharing!

Aaron - Today is that Days last blog post..Open The Success Floodgates by Tapping Into Your Burning Desires and Belief

5. Maria Gajewski - June 11, 2008

@Aaron - “Yes, I still prepare for the worst, but I prepare for it mentally and “make peace” with it so that even if the worst happens, I don’t have a negative reaction to it.”

This is well said, and exactly the point I was trying to make! By being prepared for things like sleeping in the airport, I made an agreement with myself to not get stressed out about it, which resulted in a lot less anxiety about the trip.

Thanks for clarifying my own thoughts for me :)

6. Tip Diva | Carnival Of Tips - June 14, 2008 - June 15, 2008

[...] Gajewski presents How to Use Travel Nightmares to Increase Your Mental Flexibility posted at Never the Same River Twice, saying, “Traveling can be stressful, but doing a little [...]

7. Sal - Luggage Repair Parts Guide - August 2, 2008

Hi there,

Just stumbled upon your site and must say that you make some great points regarding travel and the frustrations around it. My wife and I planned a trip to go from San Diego to San Francisco for a wedding and paid a pretty penny since it was a last minute decision. It was supposed to be a 1-hour flight but turned out to be a 6-hour trip due to so many flight delays. It would’ve been much cheaper to drive! Anyways, we made it in time for the wedding reception but that was too much of a close call.

Thanks for sharing tips!
Sal

Sal - Luggage Repair Parts Guides last blog post..Helpful Tips on Luggage Repair Parts

8. Kim - August 7, 2008

Thanks for the thoughtful post. I also always prepare for the worst and live with whatever happens.

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