Yesterday I had a great time video chatting with Bas de Baar, a project manager in the Netherlands and the author of Project Shrink, an awesome project management blog.
Bas is a really smart and nice guy who asked me some pretty pointed questions about flexible personal development and my compass direction method of planning (or should I say, anti-planning?). A few of the highlights include:
Why personal development can make organizational change easier
How to “bootstrap” your own personal development
Why flexible, frequent planning is the most effective method for most organizations
He recorded our conversation and posted it on YouTube. You can watch it below [note: if you're reading this in a RSS reader, you may have to click through to the blog to see the video], but be sure to visit Bas’ post to join in the discussion on this really cool subject.
Welcome to the January 19, 2009 edition of the Carnival of Personal Development. This blog carnival gathers all the best posts of the week covering personal development, health, personal finance, and self-improvement. I’m really honored to be hosting the carnival this week. It’s been a great opportunity to read the work of new (to me) bloggers.
I hope you enjoy reading this week’s carnival as much as I’ve enjoyed putting it together. To get the most out of it, be sure to click through the links that interest you and read the original posts. If you find a blog that you really enjoy, subscribe to it by RSS so that you can keep up with all their writing.
If you’re new to Never the Same River Twice, have a look at the Best Of… page to read some of my best posts, or the About page to learn a little more about the site and about me.
My Picks
There were many good submissions to the carnival this week, but the following three posts really caught my attention.
Jim presents Success Finds Hard Work, Talent & Passion posted at Blueprint for Financial Prosperity. This post inspired me to keep working on my blog and other projects, even when it seems like a long road. Jim has experienced great success by following his own advice and continuing to work hard every day.
Juliet du Preez presents We All Make Assumptions posted at LifeMadeGreat saying, “Even if we don’t know what assumptions we are making or what we are not noticing, it is always good to bear in mind that we are seeing the world through our perceptions and not necessarily as it really is.”
Great Management presents Why Traditional Goal Setting Doesn’t Work posted at Great Management saying, “If you have a $100,000,000.00 in the bank, drive the new Jaguar, look like a movie star and have a perfect health – save yourself some time and do not read this article. This article is for people, who don’t have all these things…”
Felix presents Are You a Dreamer? posted at Fulfilled Dreams saying, “Dreamers have always been the saviors of the world. People, going through tough times, are feeding on the dreamers’ vision. To want means to obtain. To have aspirations means to achieve them…”
Ariel Bravy presents What Is Abundance? posted at You Are Truly Loved saying, “When we accurately define the term “abundance,” watch how life’s possibilities open up for us.”
Silicon Valley Blogger presents High Yield Savings Account Interest Rate Review posted at The Digerati Life saying, “We discuss interest rates and good high yield savings options, which are few and far between during this recession and low rate environment.”
If you’ve enjoyed this week’s Carnival of Personal Development, check out next week’s edition at Simply Forties. If you’re a blogger and you want to participate, submit your personal development, health, personal finance, and self-improvement related posts at the Blog Carnival page.
We’re now officially in the 2nd week of Traveling By Your Inner Compass. Now that you’ve reviewed your first week and selected some tasks for this week, it’s time to make things a little more challenging. Today, we’re going to stretch our comfort zones by making one small change that is just hard enough to keep your change muscles in shape!
Keep Stretching
What’s the point of going outside of our comfort zones? As people age we naturally become less comfortable with change. Most people gradually settle into a routine in their daily lives and it becomes more and more difficult to break out of those routines. As a good friend of my told me recently, “Life is pretty routine now. I have a nice ass groove worn in my couch and it’s not going anywhere anytime soon.”
When something beyond our control happens that forces us out of those routines it can be really traumatic. Think about how hard it is for parents when their children move out of the house. All of the sudden, their daily routines that were centered on raising children have to change.
People who continue to change and push their boundaries over time are much more adaptable and deal with externally driven changes much better than mentally rigid people. Getting plenty of exercise keeps your body healthy over time, and exercising your brain and your change muscles will keep you fit when unexpected things happen to you.
Select a Small Change
For this week, brainstorm and choose one small thing that you can do to stretch your comfort zone and exercise your change muscles. Notice that I wrote small change. Just like I would never tell an out of shape person to go run a marathon, I would not suggest that you make a drastic change in your life all at once.
So how do you decide what to do for your small change? Start by thinking about areas in your life that are stuck in a rut. Do you come home every evening, flip on the TV, change into pajamas and sweats, and wear your own ass groove into the couch for the rest of the night? If that’s your routine, pick one night this week to do something that will be a lot of fun and motivate you to stay off the couch. It can be as simple as going out for desert with a friend or doing something outside like sledding or going for a walk.
We all have areas where we’re just going along unconsciously, so take a few minutes to identify one area that is pretty stuck for you and think of one way to get it unstuck. I do this type of thing regularly, and have documented a few of them in the SmallChange category on this site. In the past year a few of the things I’ve done include:
Having a No Complaint weekend
Moving one step closer to a childhood dream, and
Visiting an ethnic grocery store
None of these things is huge by themselves, but over the year I’ve become less resistant to change and have taken on bigger and bigger challenges. Now, when things happen that get me off course come along I’m able to adapt more quickly and get back to traveling in my Compass Direction.
Your exercise for today is to select one small change you can make that stretches your comfort zone and put it on your schedule. Commit to getting done this week.
When you’re finished, tell us what your small change is in the comments section. Also, don’t forget to follow me on Twitter. I’m tweeting a couple of tips per day to help you through this process.
Welcome to the second week of Traveling By Your Inner Compass! If you’ve been playing along so far you have:
1) Selected a Compass Direction for 2009
2) Created a Possibilities List of ways you can start moving in your chosen direction
3) Chosen some items from the Possibilities List for your first week Action Plan
4) and most importantly you’ve been Acting on that Plan!!
If you’ve just joined us, follow the links above to go through this process from the beginning.
Now it’s time to look back on your week of action and make adjustments and course corrections as needed.
Reviewing the Week
When you’re navigating with a compass, it’s important to take a look at the path you’ve traveled so that you can make adjustments as needed. If the path you chose was too difficult you may not have been able to accomplish everything you wanted and you may be discouraged. If the path you chose was too easy, you may be bored now and lack motivation for continuing.
By taking a little time to review your travels at regular, short intervals you can keep adjusting your course to keep things fresh, interesting and helpful. Now that you have a week’s worth of action, reflect on your progress for a few moments. The following questions can help you with this:
Do I feel better about where I am this week than I did last week?
Did I take enough action to keep my momentum up? Did I try to do too much and get overwhelmed?
Did life throw me any curve balls? Did those unexpected challenges throw me off course?
Do I like and enjoy the path that I’m on? Do I want to change direction completely? Are there ways to make the journey more fun?
If you journal, this is a great exercise to do once a week. At the very least, take 10-15 minutes to think through some of these questions.
In my week, I’ve done pretty good job of Reaching Out. I attended a couple of great social events and made several phone calls to some friends I’ve fallen out of touch with. I commented on many blogs over the course of the week. I’m writing a guest post for another blog (to be announced soon) I’m also hosting the Carnival of Personal Development next week, which is a great way to “meet” other bloggers. I’ve also had a gigantic curve ball tossed in my direction, so I need to make some adjustments based on that.
Adjusting Course
Now that you’ve reflected on the past week, it’s time to set some tasks for the upcoming week. Be sure to look at your Possibilities List if you need ideas. Make sure that the items you select seem interesting and will take you further in your direction.
Working off of my Possibilities List, but taking into account my curve ball, in the next week I can:
Continue calling friends I haven’t spoken with in a while
Attend a weekend social event outside of my normal routine
Take a group exercise class
Look into doing more audio posts or possibly some video posts to better engage with my readers
That’s probably a good task list to start with. It may not seem like much, but it is appropriate given some of the challenges I need to deal with right now. Of course if I end up accomplishing more than I expected I can add more. The key is to keep reviewing and adjusting at short, regular intervals.
Your exercise for today is to do a short review, either mentally or in writing. Then make a one week plan and commit to doing your chosen activities for those days, starting now.
When you’re finished, share a bit of your progress in the comments section. Also, don’t forget to follow me on Twitter. I’m tweeting a couple of tips per day to help you through this process.
Wait a minute! Didn’t I say yesterday that planning doesn’t work? Well, I did and I stand by that. Specifically, long term planning doesn’t work. However, I have found that it’s a lot easier to move forward in the short term if you have a realistic, flexible plan to work off of.
In this post, I’m going to show you how to select item(s) from your list of possibilities and turn those into a 7 day action plan. More importantly, we’re going to start working on these plans today. Not tomorrow, not Monday, but today. Because seriously, it’s January 7 as a write this and your New Year’s momentum is already starting to wane, isn’t it?
The Possibilities List
In yesterday’s post I asked you to make a list of possible actions you could take to turn your theme into a to-do list. For my theme of “Reach Out” I came up with the following list:
Guest post on other blogs
Become more active in forums
Host a teleseminar or UStream event
Join a group exercise class
Lead a community service project
Call one close friend every week
Send a handwritten letter every week
Network with a new group
Travel to 2 new places
If you didn’t make a list yet, go back and do that now. Do you have a list now? Good.
Now your job is going to be selecting one or more items from the list and making a commitment to turn that into an action plan for this week.
Are You Extreme or Moderate?
When it comes to change, there are two schools of thought. One is the extreme changers, who suggest that you go all out at the beginning of the change process to make quick progress. For example, the South Beach Diet has a two week phase to begin the diet that is extremely low in carbs. Following this plan will help you loose weight quickly. This might keep you motivated to stay on the diet, but it isn’t very sustainable over a long period.
The second school of thought is the more moderate changers. These people suggest that you set a sustainable pace by working on a change for as little as 10 minutes per day. Just keep moving forward a little bit and you’ll eventually make a lot of progress. This pace can be demotivating for people who don’t have a lot of patience, but it appeals to people with more measured personalities.
Before you put your plan together, ask yourself the following questions:
Do I need to see quick progress to stay on track?
Do I tend to go all out on a new project only to get burned out in a week?
Do I have a burning desire to put all my effort into this?
Do I need to conserve energy for everything else going on in my life?
If you’ve decided that you need to go all out to stay motivated, craft your weekly plan around a lot of time and activity. Choose at least one thing on your list to work on every day. Lock yourself in the house this weekend and devote all of your energy to your list and try to check off as many things as you can. Keep sprinting until the end of the week, and then take a breather day if needed.
Looking at my list, a weekly plan that goes all out might look like this:
Today: Go to the gym and join a group exercise class. Work out and talk to 3 people after class.
Tomorrow: Sign up for BlogTalkRadio, schedule a weekly show and start marketing it on Twitter, Facebook and everywhere else I can think of.
Weekend: Call 5 friends I haven’t connected with. Go out Friday and Saturday. Talk to 3 new people each night. Write a huge ebook to attract more blog readers.
Monday: Join a local networking group and go to their meeting. Talk to 5 new people.
Tuesday: Write handwritten letters to 5 friends to make up for not sending Christmas cards!
Wednesday: Rest day
This total immersion plan obviously doesn’t leave time for anything else, but it will help me make a ton of progress if I can stick to it.
The Moderate Plan
A more measured approach would include anywhere from 10-30 minutes of activity off your list every day. This might mean that you can only work on one item, depending on how big the project is. Choose something that’s really interesting, otherwise you might get bored and loose motivation. A plan for me might look like:
Today: Go to the gym and pick up a group exercise schedule. Read through schedule and select a class.
Tomorrow: Go back to gym and sign up for the class I choose.
Saturday: Attend my class. Smile and say “Hello” to classmates, but don’t seek major contact.
Sunday: Research teleseminar providers for 30 minutes.
Monday: Work on topic for future teleseminar.
Tuesday: Post a poll on blog about interest in teleseminars. If interest is high enough, pick a date and time.
Wednesday: Keep on trucking…
As you can see, this plan helps me make progress, but it’s at a fairly slow pace. If I followed this one, I could continue to catch my favorite TV shows and spend 3 hours making a pot of soup on Sunday if I want.
Ultimately you have to decide how much time and energy you can devote to traveling in your compass direction. Just keep your theme in mind and you’ll never go wrong!!
Your exercise for today is to make a one week plan and commit to doing your chosen activities for those days, starting now.
When you’re finished, share a day or two of your plan in the comments section. Also, don’t forget to follow me on Twitter. I’m tweeting a couple of tips per day to help you through this process.
David presents Decision Making 101: Step One The Way We Make Decisions posted at Personal Finance Ology saying, “Making smart decisions is the first step in building long term wealth. Learn the methodology behind making wise decisions with your money.”
